22 February 2016

everything that happens is a blessing

When you start to play a bigger game and grow - fear can get out of hand, and you can end up sabotaging your own success.

Why does this happen?

Because right before you make major progress, you come up against all the parts of you that want to keep you safe, the same and stuck. 

There is a part of you that wants you to stay the same. And there is another part of you that desires to grow, to become more, to give more and fulfill your God-given potential 

And those two parts of you battle each other. Each day, if we are diligent, we will make small steps of progress towards our potential and leave the comfortable realm of our current circumstances. 

One pattern that can derail your potential in no time is taking the results of your efforts personally. Meaning, if you tried a certain strategy and it didn't work out, it's vital not to decide that you are a bad or worthless person and give up the attempt to try. 

Do not assign your self-worth as a person to the outcomes of your actions. Outcomes are just that - outcomes. And outcomes can change with new action. However, if you decide that an outcome you produced is the result of you being not worthy or not enough or a "bad" person, the chances of you being able to improve your circumstances goes down significantly. 

At the same time, if you decide that you are special, more significant or better than other because of a good outcome that you created, then you put yourself on the path of destruction because you are feeding a false sense of your ego and you will be humbled by life. 

The goal is to not take the outcomes personally, whether good or bad, but rather see everything that happens as a lesson and a blessing.

When you can see everything that happens in your life as a blessing, you are on the fast track to spiritual awakening. 

Perhaps, all of it is Divine. The good. The bad. The in between. All is sent for your growth, your benefit, and your spiritual evolution. 

Repeat after me, "I won't take the outcomes I create personally. I am a worthy person and Soul in the eyes of my Creator, and I allow myself to learn the lessons I am meant to learn. I will not judge what happens as a reflection of my identity as a Soul..."

Ahhhhhhh, doesn't that feel good?

Remember, you are not what happens to you, or the outcomes that you create.

You are an Infinite Soul in a temporary human body who has been sent to learn lessons, grow and become more by giving back and improving the lives of others. 

So be it. Amen. 

Choose to see the lesson. Choose to let go of the shame, guilt, and fear and know that in this moment - you are loved. 

10 February 2016

Are You Coachable?

"real change is more often spurred by desperation than inspiration."
im looking for people who could teach me how to live a life worth living

A proverb says that only stupid men learn from experience. Wise men learn from other people’s experience.

humility. Humility teaches that there are things we need to do that we cannot do on our own. The most important things we need to learn require fundamental changes in our behavior and outlook. Humility requires a change of heart rather than a change of mind

willingness to surrender controlWe implicitly insist that we will only give up control once we have seen results. In fact we only get results if we are willing to give up control. Unwillingness to surrender control is the single biggest reason for the lamentable fact that most authentic change is precipitated by a crisis.

authentic change is a journey into the unknown, and a journey into the unknown is by definition a journey into uncertainty. Insisting on certainty is just another bogus constraint we impose to stay off the hook.

faith. The problem with life is that it must be lived forward and only understood backwards. Usually things get worse before they get better. Only hindsight is 20/20, and that is why we so often hear someone exclaim, “If I knew then what I know now I would’ve changed years ago.”