"you need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select what clothes youre gonna wear every day. this is a power you can cultivate. if you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. thats the only thing you should be trying to control. drop everything else but that. because if you cant learn to master your thinking youre in deep trouble forever. this seems a nearly impossible task. this is not about repression or denial. repression and denial set up elaborate games to pretend that negative thoughts and feelings are not occurring. instead admit to the existence of negative thoughts, understanding where they came from and why they arrived, and then --with great forgiveness and fortitude-- dismissing them. its a sacrifice to let them go, of course. its a loss of old habits, comforting old grudges and familiar vignettes. of course this all takes practice and effort. its not a teaching that you can hear once and then expect to master immediately. its constant vigilance and i want to do it. i need to do it, for my strength. devo farmi le ossa."
(eat pray love, p178)